When I mentioned home birth to my Husband, I could see the worry and apprehension in his eyes. Truth be told, when I decided half way through my last pregnancy that I wanted a home birth, worries and apprehension were probably peeking through my eyes at first, as well. There are lots of questions and many preparations to be made upon deciding to have a home birth. However, when research has been done, questions have been answered and the decision to have a home birth has been made, it is important that the pregnant Mama truly feels comfort and reassurance from those around her. Here are 5 ways to do just that.
- Pay attention. Really pay attention. Listen when she talks about her wants, needs and plans for home birth. There’s not much worse than feeling like someone you care about isn’t interested in something that’s important to you.
- Give your input, but don’t criticize. You can voice your opinion, but remember to validate and understand how she feels first. She will be doing the hardest work of her life and it is ultimately her choice where and how she does it. She needs to feel completely supported and comfortable with her surroundings during birth for it to go smoothly. If you are keeping the line of communication open in a gentle and understanding way, she will likely be open to your thoughts and ideas as well.
- Do your own research. If you don’t know where to start, Google ‘home birth’ and start to search related topics of interest from there. She will be reassured, comforted and probably a little impressed seeing someone close to her caring enough to do so.
- Get involved and offer help. It can be time consuming and get lonely planning and purchasing everything for a home birth alone. Offer to write a list that she has on her mind (if she’s anything like me, she has 5 at any given time…), to help her research the best prices for supplies or to stop by the store and pickup something needed.
- Ask her what else she needs. What does she need from you other than the things above? What does she need and expect from you while she’s in labor and in the days after she has the baby? Let her know that she has your full support at all times and then really follow through with that support. She deserves it.
Even though these things may seem small, they will make a world of a difference to the homebirthin’ Mama in your life.